This kid, always with a snack in hand.
The other day I read somewhere that it takes up to three years once you move someplace new to start feeling like you've built a community. For me, it was more like two or so years but I completely agree. And when I finally stopped pining for our life in Utah and started making an effort to make friends and build a community here in Boston, we're moving home. Go figure.
I remember during the early days of motherhood, when out for all those crank walks, I'd see moms pushing strollers with babies close in age to Alice and I'd have to fight the urge to go up to them and say, Hi. We're both moms. Do you want to be my friend? Fortunately there were those baby groups I took Alice to when she was just a wee little baby and then we joined a group at our local library where the environment was more conducive for making friends (unlike me trying to strike up a friendship with a random mom just out for a walk).
After I mentally planted both feet firmly here in Boston, I decided to stop complaining about not having friends and feeling lonely during my days at home and do something about it. So I started initiating play dates and trips to the park and outings for lunch or coffee with moms from play groups. And, imagine that! I made friends. Feeling comfortable with stepping out of my comfort zone and initiating friendships is definitely a life lesson I've learned while living in Boston.
I have met some wonderful women whom I've grown incredibly close to over the last 16 months, making this move home bittersweet. I've known some of these women since their babies were just a few weeks old and we've shared stories of the ups and downs and the struggles and triumphs of being new moms. I've loved watching their babies grow right alongside Alice as they rolled over, crawled and eventually walked at our play dates. It is a bit sad to think Alice's time with these kids and their moms is coming to an end.
But that's what Facebook and Instagram are for, right?
Have you made new friends since becoming a mom? Or did your longtime friends have kids around the same time you did? The nice thing about moving back to Salt Lake City is that many of my high school friends still live there. But most of my friends had kids in their early 20's and are now raising tweens and teens! Maybe their kids will be my go-to babysitters instead of Alice's playmates.