So, this is funny. There are a few other girls at work who are also pregnant (one who is due the same week as me) and they are all furiously scouring the Babies R' Us website, debating car seats and strollers as they make their baby shower gift lists. Um... hi. I haven't even considered doing any of that stuff yet for a couple of reasons. First, I just feel like it's still too early for me to start getting caught up in that (I have over 5 months to go). Plus I find all the choices and all the stuff totally overwhelming. How much of that stuff do you really need with a new baby? Second (and I know this is controversial), we're not doing the whole baby-shower/gift-registry thing. I'm sure I sound like a total party-pooper but Lee and I have thought a lot about this and we'd rather have our family and friends spend their time and money traveling to Boston to see us rather than buying us the stuff that we're happy to buy for the baby ourselves. We're not young parents. We're established in our careers. We're very particular in what we'd like to have for this wee-one. So we're being all non-traditional and saying 'No, thank you' to the traditional baby shower gifting madness.
I know that people (especially new grandparents) will be chomping at the bit to shower gifts on the newest member of our family so we'll give them some options! My mother-in-law and my grandmother (and many other family members) are amazing at sewing and knitting and quilting (all of which I suck at) so we'll encourage them to make something for the wee-one (I still have my baby blanket that my grandmother made for me when I was born). If they're not crafty then we're considering setting up a long-term college savings account for our baby that they can donate a little something to if they'd like. No pressure. We will love them and our baby will love them regardless of gifts. We promise!
I know we can't deter everyone from giving us gifts (and we'll gratefully accept the ones that slip through the cracks) but we want our friends and family to just focus on the miracle of our new baby rather than the material side of us becoming parents.
And if my family and friends or Lee's family want to have a no-gift baby shower for me, I'm totally in! Just as long as there is delicious food and wonderful company!
Do you find 'going-against-the-grain' and being 'non-traditional' a little scary? Sometimes I do. But I also find it liberating. This is your life! Create your own rules and your own traditions!